By Nick Jankel

Author, Keynote Speaker, Leadership Theorist, Transformational Coach, Wisdom Teacher, Co-Creator of Bio-Transformation Theory & Practice®

Coaching Gets you Unstuck & on Track

Do you feel stuck in your life – not sure what to do next or how to solve your problems? Maybe you feel a little depressed or stressed out and want to feel more in control of your life. More and more people of all ages are turning to life coaching or personal coaching to find practical support in changing things around for themselves and to turning their dreams into reality. A life coach can be an excellent sounding board as you figure out what you want to do. Life coaches won’t give you advice, but they can listen and, using various tools, help you form a plan so that you can thrive instead of just survive – and start fulfilling more of your potential to have an amazing life.

Life Coaching Tools & Techniques

If you’re imagining lying on a sofa and talking about your childhood, let’s be clear: coaching is not therapy. It’s not about digging up the past – it’s about moving into the future with more confidence and an awareness of what’s been tripping you up so you can choose differently this time. For example, maybe you struggle with time management or procrastination. A life coach can help you find strategies to structure your time better – in work, studies, and personal life – and help you break down your goals into bite-sized chunks you can manage. S/he can also help you identify thoughts or beliefs that stop you from getting on with stuff – and teach you some tools to change those. Your coach will help you to get clearer on what your overall vision is for your life, and how you can start to make that come true. Plus you have someone to report back to. This accountability means you’re less likely to put off doing stuff and will feel more satisfaction as you share your successes and progress with someone who’s a bit like a cheerleader. We all need a bit of positive input and encouragement.

During a coaching session, you can expect to come across coaching techniques such as Neuro-linguistic Programming, writing exercises, interview techniques and more, always drawing on a psychological background. These will help you discover what habits or ways of thinking are stumbling blocks on your way to a life you can wake up excited about – and start to change them.


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How do I Find a Life Coach?

You can search for a life coach in your area – but you can also have life coaching sessions over Skype or the phone. Expect a session of between 45 and 60 minutes. When looking for a life coach, it pays to do your research carefully, so look through authorized bodies or go by personal recommendation, making sure your coach is properly qualified and insured. Some coaches offer a shorter free introductory session, or a no-obligation chat, so that you can see if you will work well together. The importance of rapport cannot be underestimated! You will work much better with someone you feel comfortable with. So don’t be afraid to shop around and don’t feel you have to get sucked in by a blatant sales pitch.

Partnership & Guidance for Full Potential

The word ‘coaching’ comes from the Anglo-Saxon word for ‘carriage’ – a way of transporting something from one place to another. So quite simply a life coach is someone who can guide you from where you are in life to where you want to be. A life coach will help you explore: what you need and want in life, what motivates you, what skills you have and how you think about things, so that you can start making some real changes in your life – changes that will last. The coach-client relationship is a partnership – the coach doesn’t tell you what to do. Instead, s/he will listen to you and ask you questions that help you think about these things yourself, to find out what actions you can take and how you can solve your problems. You will be supported in setting goals and in finding ways to measure how you are doing in relation to those goals. A good life coach will keep what’s called unconditional positive regard for you as the client: this means s/he won’t judge you, but will support you whatever your point of view, ambitions and lifestyle. Coaching can help with problems and decision-making in any area of your life: relationships, work, and life/work balance. It is an empowering process that brings out more of your full potential as an individual as you learn to capitalize on your strengths and work better with your weaknesses.

From Get-rich-quick schemes to Confidence Coaches

The roots of coaching can be seen in the words of Viktor Frankl, Holocaust survivor and founder of the ‘logotherapy’ school of psychotherapy: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” In his book ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’, he talked about the importance of taking responsibility for finding meaning in any situation, however difficult, and how our responses to life events are far more important in determining happiness than what actually happens to us. In 1970’s America, self-help books and motivational talks took off in a big way – and life coaching has emerged out of this trend. But it’s come a long way since then, and become a more acceptable form of self-help to Brits, who tend to shy away from too much of a ‘cheerleading’ mentality. It’s become clear that life coaching can benefit anyone who wants to make the most of what they have and know and let go of what is limiting them – whether or not they are into ‘navel-gazing’. Life coaching has become a more respected phenomenon in recent years and is continuing to grow, even infiltrating into the corporate environment where businesses are hiring ‘confidence coaches’ for their staff.

How will this help you to transform your problems and pain?

Life and personal coaching can help you see life with fresh eyes, helping you to bust through barriers to success and fulfilment in all areas of your life and harness your own powers of stress management and focus.


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