We all love to have wiggle room – the space we make sure we have to get out of our commitments and promises by wiggling out of them. The more wiggle room we have, the freer, less committed and less responsible we tell ourselves that we need to feel.
But wiggle room is a bit of a red herring when it comes to true happiness. What it actually does is rob us of our power to be creative people – creative leaders – who can make stuff happen.
Every time we wiggle out of a promise we are essentially saying to ourselves and others ‘I am not powerful enough to say I will do this thing and then do it’. We are telling ourselves that we are somebody who finds it challenging to do what we say we are going to do and to fully own our life – that we’d prefer to be vague, flaky or hard to pin down rather than actually achieve our goals.
Neither of these are right or wrong but if we want to have the life we deserve, then the one way to do it is to take on a mission and then do that mission. We must be really honest with ourselves about whether we achieved a mission or not, not try and wriggle out of it when we come across a hurdle. After all, when we wiggle out of things that we chose to do, we are only cheating ourselves and the people we care about most.
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